#2. Saying hmm instead of restating what the other person said. — “ The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said.” — Peter Drucker 1. Omitting the word “we” People who can’t communicate think everything is an argument. If you are not single, you must have realized by now that relationships are not sporting events. Or, at the very least, they should not be. …

‘we go dey alright last last’ is a very sketchy mantra. If I was an Ivy League professor in the Liberal Arts, I would have said something like: the popular lingo among the controversial Gen-Z of the Nigerian society – ‘we go dey alright last last’, is starting to raise…

Last night, as I sat on a rock at the edge of the sea, I thought about my relationships, about how far I have come, from being in relationships where I was cheated on, lied to, told what to do and what not to do; where my personality was stifled…

Loving a highly sensitive person is not an average experience. They need to be loved differently than others, and there are many things you have to take into consideration when in a relationship with someone of this nature. Understanding highly sensitive people will help you communicate with them more effectively…

“My alma mater was books, a good library… I could spend the rest of my life reading, just satisfying my curiosity.” –Malcolm X. God’s Children Are Little Broken Things (Done). Lincoln in the Bardo by George Saunders. Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin. Glory by NoViolet Bulawayo. Kololo…

One last thing before we call it a year… — My 2022 resolution was to eat slowly. I failed (woefully, if I might add). In my defence; I tried to relax while eating quite a few times throughout the year, but my need for speed continued to override my desire to savour. That’s okay though, it’s a lifelong struggle. Marathon…

seeking courage. — “This is how I know that it doesn’t matter if you think the goals are attainable. They are. What matters is that they are impossible without the work, they cannot happen if you don’t make the work… Time bends very easily; you can fold it like this with little trouble…

We can all agree that adult friendships are nothing like our teenage friendships. Adulting requires alot of intentionality, commitment & vulnerability. Sometimes, this is scary and a lot of work. In this blog post, I’ll take you through how I’ve learned to maintain very friendships as an adult. I have…

Inspired by conversations and a memory of Jcole’s Middle Child(because playing the song will be counterproductive). I like to say I do not have many friends. People like to not believe me. …

Ps-I didn't wake up at 5 AM. — What you do after waking up is more important than when you wake up. We all have 24 hrs in a day, yet some people are greatly successful and others aren't. Although there are multiple factors responsible for it. one of the most important factors is having a routine. …

At the start of the year 2022, my NYSC experience post the orientation camp had just begun. I had a conversation with a friend that stuck with me and carried me throughout the year. He said that this year shouldn’t count in our lives. Crazy thought, right? 🥴 Well, by the end of the conversation, we both agreed that we would be deceiving ourselves if we carried that mindset through every day in 2022 because we will still…

3̼0̼ q̼u̼e̼s̼t̼i̼o̼n̼s̼ y̼o̼u̼ s̼h̼o̼u̼l̼d̼ a̼s̼k̼ y̼o̼u̼r̼s̼e̼l̼f̼ t̼o̼ b̼e̼c̼o̼m̼e̼ m̼o̼r̼e̼ s̼e̼l̼f̼-a̼w̼a̼r̼e̼. It might help if you listened to this playlist first. 1. What do I bring to the table? Why should anyone pick me? 2. Do I have expectations of people? If yes, why? And what are these different expectations? If…

Journaling is not just a habit, it is a practice. In the previous story, I talked about the best strategies for how Stoic wrote his journal. In this story, we will discuss what journaling is and how you can start journaling. I will also share journaling prompts, ideas, and topics. Journaling …

There are a few types of people that never failed to attract me. Here are they: A person who knows what they like and what important to them. It’s always a good time to spend with this kind of people. Sitting and hearing them telling things they like with their bright sparkling eyes and passionate expression, is wonderful. It will be even…

Mature love is hard to come by. — Mostly because we’re tricked into believing in the all the wrong markers of love. We’re tricked into believing real love is all about romance and grand gestures, that it’s about strong, passionate feelings that move you into doing things you never saw yourself doing before. We believe Real Love is…

You see that line where the writer said “help me see myself the way you see me”. That is one of the most powerful prayers I know. If God ever requests my opinion on how to upgrade humans, my input will be “for us to be able to see ourselves…

In the first few days after your father dies, you won’t recognize yourself. Grief will suffocate you, and your eyes will be unseeing as mourners come to pay their respects. On the day your family tells you, you will walk out of the car where your cousins are gathered. …

How Rejection Affects Our Relationships — Therapists, psychologists, and even Relationship Twitter experts will tell you that trust is the foundation of any relationship. It is this intangible, invisible thing, larger than life, that we must all make space for. …

The way you treat yourself mirrors the way other people treat you. — How I started my self-love journey? This year, I began my self-esteem journey when I suddenly realised that my relationship with myself was bad and toxic. I decided to change and began to treat myself properly by accepting, respecting, and appreciating. When the conditions within me changed, the outside world also did. …

It will help you appreciate whatever phase of life you are in right now. — I was reading a book before going to bed and then I read this line. It amazed me as much as it made me jump out and grab a highlighter. “You’ll never get that freedom back again once people start paying you attention, and especially not once they start paying…